Long Time Coming

So, yeah I know...I haven't blogged in a good while! I'm just so busy with everything going on in my life and around me. I've been taking care of people, friends, my love life, school, family issues (which is miles away), and work. Yeah know the normal issues. However, sometimes these stresses can get more complex than anyone would imagine. This makes me think of how there is a type of people who think they know it all and are worse off than you. Ya know, the people who try to out do everyone else because they are too concerned about being better than everyone else.. here's what you call cockiness. These types of people are no where near confident but think they are. It's situation like these where a person is defined as cocky or confident.Prime example: If a person comes up to these types of people and says, "hey I'm having a hard time juggling .....", the cocky person would say, "well at least you don't have this and this going on on top of everything you just said". I'm not saying this defines all people who are cocky, but if they were a repeat offender than I would be having a major problem with them. This is only from my personal experiences that I believe this is true. Maybe you have other examples or object this statement, but hey that's okay; we've all had different experiences and outtakes on life.
        So some maybe wonder why this is a long time coming, well..... The other day I had a very interesting conversation like the one above with a person that is cocky. And I just got so sick of it that I put them in their place. Now if you knew me, I'm talkative but I do what I preach. It was one of those times where I couldn't handle it anymore. Yea know, they just get under your skin. Sometimes you need that in life; to just put someone in their place and it maybe helpful to them to experience something like that and it may not. But it definitely was a risk well worth taking. Now I know that the change in that person will only last for a short while, but they will be back to their old ways in no time.
       So what does this have to do with wellness?? Well, I think and yes I think, that its healthy to be able to let your emotion go sometimes and not hold them in. Even if its just a venting session. But there will come a point in time that you will want to confront that person and I think its healthy to do so. Mine was not as harsh as it sounds but you need to talk in a low tone and soft voice. People WILL FEEL ATTACKED if you use a loud and high pitch voice. Trust me I know this because a lot of my preteen to early teen years were a lot like those types of conversations. I will freely admit that! I'm not perfect and I wouldn't expect others to be from a realistic stand point. But its healthy to be civil and let your emotions out in a controled environment such as a therapist or with a highly trusted friend. Then go and talk to the person that has been getting under your skin. It will make it easier to say what you need to say. I haven't always been great with these types of communication skills, but I have learned truly from the Athletic Trainers in my life, from high school through college. I would also have to accedit this to my roommate who is a very calming and excellent influence on points of view, experience, and how something sounds if it is said in different ways using different terms. I mean I guess she's good with words and how to say things because she's a creative writing major and she's kinda going to be a big deal author some day. :P
     Stress is a much apart of life as are exercise and nutrition, but its really how its handled that effects how you feel, how your day is, what will happen next, etc. The list could go on and on!
So just do what you need to do to make the situation HEALTHY for you and the other person involved!

Sincerely,
 Country Jewel :*

Starting Out

So this is my first ever blog. Kinda scary! I mean not really but what do you really write about? Exactly my first question! I tried to make it too specific at first, but found that I am a really RaNDoM person. So why not write about a variety of topics, but have them all focus back to life experiences, health, fitness, and goals. I mean, I was kinda inspired to write about my life and experiences thanks to my roommate! Alison is such a great roommate. We have so much fun together! We are always having a late night party. I mean its a party to us. Singing songs from Moulin Rouge is our favorite, making cinnamon toast at 1 in the morning with hot choc., and just encountering new things about each other everyday. We have become great friends over these past 2 years and its great to have someone that hits close to home for ya. I don't think we'll ever get out of touch for the rest of our lives because we are both engraved in each other.

Which brings me too an important point, how good friendships can affect your overall health. I really think good relationships with people can cause you to live a healthier life style. Think about it, if you had a person who treated you like crap, wouldn't you be moody. Well even if you don't think you are, trust me you are! Next time look at what you eat. Your actions reflect what you feel, always. Its the exact same thing when you're on your period. Sorry guys but its true. For the guys, its a comparison to when you drink in your teen years because of course you're invinsible and think you're a big shot. And in later years you see you have a gross beer gut. Its that feeling where you just can't help yourself because you feel like shit. If you surround yourself with people who lift you up than you have a better chance to eat better. A lot of life revolves around the psychological feelings and behavior of people. If you have the mind set than you can set yourself up for success, if your looking for a healthier diet. Its like a building, you need to set up the beams for stability to put up the rest of the structure. The basics are always key! So what I'm saying is that positive relationships are the building blocks to a healthier life style. This is only one component of a feel great life style. Don't make it difficult for yourself by forcing yourself to eat healthy constantly. A little bit of unhealthy food is okay every so often in small portions. Like when I was younger, I loved POP! That's all my grandmother had at her house besides skim milk (which I hated), water, and occasionally sun tea. But I really gave it up one day because It seemed to be flaring up my face blemishes. So I stopped drinking it and I never really drink pop at all any more. Now, I just stopped drinking it all together. Some people can do that and other can't. Something that can help you progress farther is to know your patterns of habit. Be honest with yourself and know what is realistic for you! If you can't do it immediately, take small steps to ween yourself away from it. To succeed you need a great support system! If your friends and family believe in you than that's more power to you!

A final thought:
       Just learn to live your own life and be true to yourself. Do stuff for you, not because someone tells you to. Think of the benefits you can gain! What do you have to lose? You really don't have anything to lose! A perfect example from Job 1:21, now an Americanized phrase-I came into the world with nothing and I'll leave with nothing but love. Coming from a very Slovak and Italian family I have learned that life is a sensational experience. The good and the bad are beneficial because you learn from both, what to do and not to do. It can make you BETTER if YOU chose to, and you it can DESTROY you, if YOU LET IT.

Peace. Love. Friendship.-Country Jewel